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A Challenge: An Open Letter To Fellow Teachers


Dear Fellow Teachers,

Fired up about the latest mass murder in an American school?  Great.  Me, too.  And if I see one more well-meaning teacher on a social media post ask for advice while trying not to be “political”,  I’m going to snap my very favorite purple pen in half.   And you know that means business when a teacher vows to destroy a favorite pen. So, fellow teachers…




Everything we do is legislated by the state or federal government or decided upon by a school board.  From the backless, toeless shoes we’re not supposed to wear in my district to the funding we receive as a Title 1 school, EVERYTHING IS POLITICAL.

Saying you’re not political is political. 

It places you firmly in your privilege, siding with the status quo.

Your non-voice, your silence, emboldens others to tell you what to teach, how to teach it, and how much you’ll be paid to shut up and fake-it-to-make it.

I’m not saying your classroom is the place to indoctrinate your students with your views on abortion or 2nd Amendment rights. As a professional, your job is to helps students explore all points of view. What I’m saying is that you need to educate yourself and take a social media stand on issues that impact the four walls you teach in every single day.

For example:

If you can’t talk about these topics with a modicum of insight, it’s time to stop grading and read about them.

You can still use social media to ask for advice and share your favorite activities, but please get out of your Pinterest stupor and GET INFORMED.  What can you do?

  1. Find your local school district’s social media accounts  and follow them.
  2. Find your town’s social media accounts and follow them.
  3. Find your county’s social media accounts and follow them.
  4. Find your governor’s social media accounts and follow them.
  5. Find your STATE legislators’ social media accounts and follow them.
  6. Find your CONGRESSIONAL legislators’ social media accounts and follow them.


7) “Like” what you agree with a write a comment telling them why.

8) If you disagree with what your elected official posted, tell them why.

9) Do both professionally and diplomatically. No name calling, no sweeping generalizations. Keep it positive.

10) And when someone in your social circle posts something  you know is factually dubious (because you’re informed), TELL THEM ABOUT IT and add a credible link. Do not engage with a back and forth and be ridiculous.  Use your teacher voice.  Then get on with your life.

“But Heather, it’s JUST social media!”

It’s never JUST anything when it concerns our students.

Quick story:

In the mid 2000’s I was at a National Writing Project Annual Meeting and chose a session about supporting LBGTQ students, back when it was still precarious professionally to do so openly.  The hotel conference room was packed with teachers from all over the country, wanting to make a difference without losing their jobs.  One man said, “Listen. Even if all you can do is tell a student ‘That’s so gay is not OK in this classroom,’ you have done something. You have made your classroom safer for the closeted student in the back row or for another student whose uncle just came out.”

Those two sentences changed me.  Since that November afternoon  years ago, my classroom has never been the same.  Some people might consider it a political act that I stand up so openly for my LGBTQ students. I long to live in a culture where treating everyone with dignity and respect is a norm, not a political leaning. So until then, the rainbow  drawing on my classroom door is political. I can live with that.

I believe that every student has the right to feel safe in every classroom across our great, complicated, bruised country.   And they will never feel totally safe until we, as teachers, stop being afraid of being called “political.”


With love,



Overjoyed To Revise


1357938918_4471_EqualityWhen I created the character of Gilly Tomlinson, the political climate in the United States was very different. We were in the last two years of the Bush administration and the dialogue about marriage equality was minimal and the loudest voices were of those who cloaked their ignorance in the name of “family values.”  Gilly was to be a character whose greatest struggle was being an openly gay man. Northeastern Pennsylvania isn’t  the easiest place to be different, from sexuality to race to socio-economic level. I always knew he was out to his close friends and had a boyfriend in far-away Washington, DC,  but as far as work and family went, he was just a bachelor trying to get ahead at his law firm. These social constraints were key to his character and the choices he’d make.

Now, the loudest voices are from people outwardly defending marriage equality and civl rights.  Even some of my 8th graders created persuasive presentations on why gay marriage should be legal and wear pins that say “That’s So Gay Is Not OK.” After the Supreme Court’s decisions in favor if civil rights for ALL Americans,  I am overjoyed to know I can revise what I had planned for him in the sequel.  Will he struggle?  Of course; however,  his world, our world, is different from when we went to bed last night. I cannot wait for his part of the story to reflect this.

Today’s rulings don’t mean smooth sailing, just as the Civil Rights Act doesn’t mean we all overcame. I’m just excited that today opens so many options for all of us.

I’ve never been happier to revise.